“Its OK Mommy” Heartbreaking words from daughter of Diamond Reynolds

This week, a 4 year old girl went on a car ride with her mom and her mom’s boyfriend.

If she’s like any of the typical 4 year olds I know, she would have been excited at the prospect of a car ride… busily chatting along with her mom about anything and everything, pointing out random things that would only draw the interest of a child around that age.

The car ride should have been just another event in the day of this 4 year old, but for this little girl it ended in tragedy so profound that an entire nation, if not the world has sat up and taken notice.

The little girl is of course the daughter of Diamond Reynolds, who watched her mother’s boyfriend, be murdered right in front of her.

I’m a mom, and for all purposes, this is a “mommy blog”; aimed at reaching out and empowering other mothers like myself. So I will not sit behind my keyboard and screen and pretend that I know anything about the turmoil that is currently brewing in America right now.

What I do know though, is that when the full impact of the situation finally hit Ms Reynolds, and she realised her boyfriend was dead, her composure broke and she howled in grief.

At that point in her live stream, something happened that sent a cold shiver down my spine. It broke my heart into a million tiny pieces. In that moment, that little girl, barely out of her toddler years, can be heard comforting her mama; “Its OK mommy, I’m here with you”.

And once more a few seconds later: “Its OK mommy, I’m here with you”.

Whatever the outcome of these senseless deaths, let the innocence and compassion of that little child spur us to be better and do better.

Let’s reach a level of humanity where we won’t need the hashtag #BlackLivesMatter, not because they don’t, but because we’re so far past being labelled Black, White, Green.

Let us exercise tolerance and acceptance, for the sake of our children. For the state of the world they will grow up in.

Let us not forget that little girl, who will be forever changed by a series of events that should never have happened.

 

Let Humanity Win (My thoughts on Disney Gator Attack)

I have been at a complete loss for words since hearing about the 2 year old who was dragged away from his parents by an alligator at Disney, Florida.

This, hot on the heels of the worst mass shooting the US has ever seen, and the senseless gunning down of Christina Grimme, a beautiful, talented 22 year old…all in Florida, all in the space of a few days.

And while thoughts and anger, emotion and sadness has been filling my head and mind since these horrific events have unfolded, I’ve been at a complete loss on how to put those words down on paper.

But today I woke up to the news that a little body was found, mere feet from where his helpless dad had watched him be snatched as he tried to pry open an alligator’s mouth with his bare hands. A child… loved, cherished, cared for… very much like my own two children, and my heart breaks into a million tiny pieces.

Then I see the fury that is brewing on social media…fury, blame and anger aimed at the parents of the 2 year old, and it makes me want to bury my head in my hands and weep for what we have become.

People are citing parental negligence as the cause of this heart-breaking incident. But tell me…how many visitors walk that exact park each day? Each month? Each year?

How many children get close to the water’s edge, squeal with laughter and run excitedly back to their parents? How many wander around, happily creating memories, carefree and full of life?

Now tell me, how many have been attacked by an alligator while doing do? Disney has never had an incident like this occur before. And while Florida may be rife with alligators, they rarely attack humans.

NO ONE could have seen this coming.

The child was NOT unattended. He was NOT swimming. His parents were NOT negligent, and they DO NOT deserve this. No parent does.

The internet has killed our humanity. It has emboldened us to become horrible, horrible monsters … people we would never portray in real life.

Would anyone taking a dig at these parents have the guts to walk up to them, in this moment of utter grief, point a finger to their faces and say: “It’s your fault your child is dead. You should have been a better parent”

No one would dare say it to their faces, yet we sit happily behind our screens, the keyboard our assault weapon of choice, as we pick off strangers one by one.

Gorilla mom faced the internet’s fury when her child fell into Harambe’s enclosure. I admit, I was one of the first to point my finger. But in the end, my humanity won over my need to join the internet mob.

And a ‘mob’ is precisely what we’ve become. A bunch of angry, vile people, spewing words of hate and contempt to people we have never met, and will never know. We have become a society who has taken it as our duty to blame, to judge, and to tear apart anyone who has ever made a mistake.

It doesn’t matter if it’s a grieving mom, a panicked, helpless father…

It doesn’t matter if we made that same mistake last week. No one was there to see, and there was no tragic outcome, so it’s ok.

For all those thinking they know better and would have done better. Stop. Please stop.

A child is gone, his parents will NEVER recover from this pain and anguish. They will pay a price – far worse than you could ever wish on them – for the rest of their lives. So please, I implore you: Stop.

Stop letting anonymity make you less human. Stop letting your screen and keyboard make you the judge and the jury.

Please let compassion take over. Please, let humanity win.