Mind your own uterus

When news broke yesterday that a third royal baby was on the way for William and Kate, social media was awash with messages of congratulations and well wishes for the royal couple. But among the tweets of cheers and felicitations, there were also ones that went like this:

“Don’t they have TVs in the Palace?”

“Do they even know how birth control works?”

“She’s been pregnant for like….4 years straight”

“#RoyalRabbits”

Can someone please tell me how it is acceptable to comment on anyone else’s reproductive choices? Have William and Kate asked for public opinion on whether they should have more children? I guess being “celebrities”, their personal choices/decisions for always up for public scrutiny, but what about the average woman?

How many regular women like you and me, are judged daily for our reproductive choices?

When are you going to settle down?

Are you gonna have a baby soon?

The clock is ticking…

You’re not getting any younger…

And then the flip side of the coin when you’ve had ‘too many’ kids by someone’s random standard:

Are you secretly Mormon?

Trying for a soccer team?

You guys don’t waste any time, do you?

Apart from being incredibly rude and downright hurtful, these types of comments can do a lot of damage because we may not have any idea about what someone is going through in their personal lives, behind the closed doors.

That woman married for 5 years without any children…?; she may be undergoing infertility treatments, trying and failing month after month to have a baby of her own.

That couple with their fourth child? Maybe they always wanted a big family after growing up incredibly lonely. Maybe they planned and longed for every child they were blessed with.

You just never know. Which is why, the best thing to do is to always – ALWAYS – mind your own uterus and just keep any comment about someone else’s reproductive choices to yourself.

If in doubt, just keep your mouth closed!

 

* Photo credit: Mind your own uterus pro-choice by Boogiemonst
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How we beat the winter colds and flus

Spring has sprung! And we have emerged from an uncharacteristically cold Durban winter relatively unscathed.

We have taken special care this winter to ensure that mild colds and early flu symptoms were kept at bay, and didn’t have the opportunity to develop into anything more sever. And while we had the occasional snotty noses and fevers, we avoided numerous trips to the doctor and thankfully did not have a repeat of last years hospital stay.

So I’d like to share the flu-fighting formula I swear by, hoping it will help you stave off the bugs next winter!

  • 5 ml Zinplex Junior Syrup (we use sugar free)
  • 1 TurboKidz Smart Multi Chew
  • Sterimar baby nasal spray at the first signs of blocked nose

beat colds and flu 1.jpgZinplex Junior syrup is a zinc supplement which has been proven to be a highly effective immune booster and support mechanism. a 5ml daily dose is said to keep colds and flus at bay while combating oral thrush and runny nose and incidents of diarrhoea.

TurboKidz is a Nativa product which I simply love as it is one of the only multi vits I found that also contain probiotics. In addition to this, it contains the necessary vitamins and minerals in far superior quantities than other leading multivitamin brands in the same price range. I am also thankful for the 1 a day formula that makes it easy-peasy to administer to the girls each morning.

Sterimar Nasal Spray is a staple in my home and we usually ensure we have at least 2 on hand in case we ever run out! A blocked nose can turn into something more severe, so a safe and effective nasal spray is our first line of defense. Sterimar is 100% natural purified sea water and contains no preservatives or additives.

The Twincesses were born at 36 weeks and although as healthy as horses, I always tend to worry that their premature birth may leave them prone to immune weaknesses or health issues… typical irrational mom fears, I guess.

But I truly believe the simple combination above has helped us through this winter, and now we say hello to Spring and hopefully and wonderfully long Summer ahead!

 

Disclaimer: the information provided here is merely a review of my own experience with these products. Please consult your doctor prior to commencing any new treatment.

 

 

Diana’s Greatest Role

I remember exactly where I was on 31 August 1997. Much like the day the Twin Towers fell, this date is forever etched in history, as the world woke up to the awful news that Princess Diana had died in a car crash in Paris.

I remember the outpouring of grief, the shock, the TV channels gripped by reruns upon reruns of her smiling face next to the mangled car.

In the 20 years since her death, the world remembers her many roles: reluctant princess, humanitarian, fashion icon, celebrity, activist. A Jane of all trades, she mastered them all, but wore one hat more proudly than any other: that of ‘Mother’.

She truly never looked happier or more at peace than when she was with her boys – and the world knows that happiness and peace were two attributes that she deserved more of in her short, often fraught life.

I feel an immense sadness for her children to have been robbed of her love and her influence. But I surely believe that it is precisely due to her early influence and unconditional love that they turned out to be such fine young men.

So on this day, 20 years since her tragic death, let us remember her above all, as the loving, protective mother she was.

“I will fight for my children on any level, so that they can reach their potential as human beings and in their public duties” – Diana Princess of Wales.

* Ghetty Images

White Lies Parents Tell Their Kids

Ever noticed yourself telling your kids a random fib to get them to behave or calm down?

I’ve become quite an expert at this so I thought I’d round up my funniest white lies in a handy list form. You’re welcome.

 

  1. My food is too spicy to share with you.
  2. They don’t sell replacement batteries for that toy.
  3. Every time you touch something in a grocery store, a puppy dies.
  4. The TV has a time limit and can only work for 1 hour a day. Choose wisely.
  5. Coke is actually dirty water. That’s why it’s black.
  6. If you misbehave in a clothing store, you will freeze on the spot and become a mannequin.
  7. The sun won’t come tomorrow up unless you go to bed.
  8. Tooth fairies pay extra for clean teeth, so brush thoroughly.
  9. The candy by the pay points of the store are reject candies that people have returned because they taste bad.
  10. McDonalds gives sad meals to naughty kids. Sad meals don’t contain toys.

 

Review: Plan B Dessertery

So social media has been abuzz with Durban’s newest foodie sensation.

I mean, it was impossible to scroll through my IG feed without luscious pics of bubble waffles- oozing all bits of delicious toppings- filling my feed and making me salivate at my desk.

So a bit late to the bandwagon, I decided to check into Plan B Dessetery on Mackeurtan this weekend with only 1 goal: to see what all the fuss was about.

We went for a host of options: the famous bubble waffles, shakes, dessert tacos (yes that’s a thing) and of course the churros.

I can safely say the hype is worthwhile! The bubble waffles are made to order, served hot and regardless of your topping choice, they are frankly- delicious.

The dessert tacos were good, but it’s the churros that won the day. Rich, hot fingers of sweet dough, dusted in a cloud of cinnamon sugar… just calling to be dunked into a bowl of chocolate or caramel sauce. One word- heavenly!

So good we went back the next day!!!

Find them at 41 Mackeurtan Avenue.

7 Reasons to Invest in a Jungle Gym

In keeping with our desire to have the Twincesses spend more time outdoors and away from the vice of technology, we recently invested in having a Jungle Gym installed in our backyard.

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To be honest I put off the decision for a long while for 2 reasons that proved to be mere myths:
– I wouldn’t be able to afford a jungle gym
– We don’t have the space for one

However, as mentioned those are just myths, because there are several companies operating the greater Durban area that provide value for money options; and jungle gyms come in every size under the sun, with options that can be fully customized to fit your space.

We worked with a gem of a guy named Marius from Jungle Kids, who provided us with a customized option at a price that could not be beat.
If you’re sitting on the fence about whether you should invest in a Jungle Gym for your kids, here are 7 reasons to go for it:

1. Increases Muscle tone
Regular exercise that can be provided by manoeuvring on a jungle gym is said to increase muscle tone in children.

2. Developmental Play
Your child’s imagination can soar when playing on a jungle gym. A simple deck becomes a pirate ship, a covered enclosure converts into a castle. Let their imaginations run wild whilst they engage in best form of free play: developmental play.

3. Improves balance and coordination
Movements performed on a jungle gym promote coordination of the body, but also improves hand eye coordination, like swinging on monkey bars. Climbing, sliding and swinging also promotes and increases balance.

4. Sharing and Cooperation
I put out some colouring books and crayons and watch the Twincesses fight over every colour in the box. But on the jungle gym, they seem to cooperate intrinsically. They share, and play together like nowhere else! I don’t know what it is that causes this immediate collaboration, but I like it!

5. Bonding time
In addition to bonding with each other, the jungle gym gives me the opportunity to bond with the girls as well. Whether I’m cheering them on the ramp, clapping as they come down the slide or pushing them on the swing, these precious moments create memories more treasured than say, watching Frozen for the hundredth time!

6. Improves self confidence
Whether your child is afraid of heights or needs help navigating the rope ramp, the moment they finally master these obstacles brings an immense increase in self-esteem. These accomplishments might not seem like much to us, but to a little child the boost in confidence can be invaluable.

7. Grows with the Kid
I see the jungle gym as a long term investment. It’s not something your child will be bored of in a month or two. As they grow, the will discover new ways to push themselves, new ways to manoeuvre, and therefore new ways to use and enjoy their jungle gym.
I would like to think that with the proper maintenance our Jungle Gym will bring many years of enjoyment for the Twincesses.

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Ballerina themed Party Ideas

The Twincesses turned 2 and we celebrated them with a beautiful, and very girly, ballerina-inspired party.

Think shades of pink and glittery gold, wafts of tulle and ribbon, dainty details and pretty textures… The themed was whimsical and perfect for any little girl.

We once again reached out to Tricks and Treats (our go-to event decor experts) to put together the party of our dreams!

Below are some of the awesome and intricate details that made my girls celebration so spectacular!

So if you’re looking for inspo on throwing your own ballerina themed event… look no further: